The picture above represents, in my eyes, very well how we humans are - in some ways. So Freud was right about something, when he compared our conscious and our unconscious with an ice mountain. At least I think so and I at times get overwhelved by all the unconscious behaviour and unconscious reactions that I cannot control. I think it's a very positive aspect of a human being, if you're conscious about your unconscious, so to say. And also when you are aware of the fact that you sometimes act in a specific way because of what's hidden in your unconscious. Because if you are aware of that, you'll also be able to take responsibility for your actions more easily! And you'll not blame everything on everybody else - which makes it a lot easier for everyone - although it also eliminates too many excuses to not work with yourself (which of course is good, but it might be a challenge).
I'm very fascinated by people's reactions to things -- and when they're very spontaniously aggressive, for example, I'd say that part of that would be unconscious material popping up. I believe personal issues have their origin in experiences, actions, thoughts from our past and sometimes things "push our bottons" and we react spontaniously. So you can actually find out very much about a person, just by knowing what really pushes their bottons!
That's one of the ways I get to know myself better, my husband and other people close to me.
I can take one example from my workday yesterday. A woman gets utterly annoyed and later almost aggressive, after she was told, that all chicken in Denmark is halal slaughtered (at least almost all chicken is...). She really freaked out loudly saying things like "This is Denmark, this is a Danish country!!!". She was furious. People looked at her, obviously wondering why she reacted like that, when everybody else seemed to not really care about these chicken...
Anyway. I stood there, actually smiling inside(!)... 'cause I know the feeling when something pushes your bottons and you can't control yourself and I know that it often has nothing to do with the subject being talked about or the situation you're in. With psychologic insight, you could dig very deep into that woman's inside and find out what's really the cause of her reaction. It might be a childhood feeling of fear of not being respected or not being important to anyone or anything else!
You'd need to find the roots of those overwhelming feelings and thereby find the cause and loosen up that knot inside (insha'Allah!).
Alhamdulillah that we're muslims! ;) Because Islam can solve everything for you, which you struggle with. And Allah (swt) gave us so many tools to handle and develop our thoughts, dreams, actions, minds, hearts etc.! I'll make duaa for that Danish woman who hates Islam and muslims (- which she said later) because obviously that hate, anger and fear emanates from something else deep inside her. Allahu akbar! But do you see what I mean? By understanding people's reasons for their actions (and your own too!) you'll become better at handling people's aggressions (or other sorts of reactions) and understand that somebody raging out on you perhaps hasn't got anything to do with you, but is about that person's own issues - and vice versa when it comes to yourself.
Have a beautiful day, evening, night or morning my dear sisters in Islam.
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